“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil,
is for good men (and women) to do nothing”
- Edmund Burke
In Ireland, over 300,000 people - both men and women, have been severely abused by a partner. It can be physical or emotional abuse. It happens in every social class and culture and among people of every educational background. Chances are, you know someone suffering from abuse. Even if it’s not immediately obvious. Most abuse goes unreported, unseen, unheard. But worst of all, is the abuse, that’s ignored.
If we witness domestic violence but choose to walk away;
we leave another victim behind.
We’re not just bystanders.
But how can you tell if someone is experiencing abuse? What are the signs?
If you think someone you know is in an abusive situation, then maybe look for the following signs.
Follow your instincts. If you’ve noticed these warning signs and expect that someone you know is being abused, don’t wait for them to approach you. Look for a private moment where you can express concern and let them know you’re there to give support.
But what about you? Maybe you’re the one suffering from abuse, but don’t realise it. Abusive people often blame problems on the person being abused.
If you’re wondering whether you’re in an abusive relationship, here are warning signs to look out for.
It can often be difficult for an abused person to identify that they’re living in an abusive relationship. But there are support services available.
You’ll find a full list at whatwouldyoudo.ie
Here are some of the services in the South West
Limerick - Adapt House Limerick - 1800 200 504
Kerry - Tralee women's Forum - 066 7120622
Clare - Clare haven Services - 065 6822435
Tipperary - Ascend Domestic Abuse Service - 0505 23379
Conor Halpin caught up with Emma O' Mahony Team leader with Adapt Kerry Women's refuge on Spin Now.
Emma's advise on what to do was: 'Listen to your gut instinct'
She continued: 'Have you become isolated? Are you becoming less chatty?'
You listen to the full interview here
Remember, if you suspect someone is being abused - before you get involved, ask yourself if it’s safe and legal to intervene.
If the situation is already violent or looks like its escalating quickly, don’t directly intervene. Call the Gardaí on 999.
The only effective bystander intervention is a non-violent one. If you see or suspect domestic abuse in the south West area visit whatwouldyoudo.ie
or call 999
A message from Cosc and the Dormant Account Fund supported by SPIN SOUTHWEST